A PRESENT FOR YOU

August 4th, 2010

What if you gave a present and the person took it and put it on the shelf or just pushed it aside to focus on something else ? After  a while we would start to wonder if they cared  about the gift at all. Yet, how often do we take this great gift of the  ”present” that was given to us and fill it with the “past” or worries about the “future” ? So much so, that we are virtually oblivious to the “present”. Interestingly enough, there is nothing we can do about the past, it is over. as for the future, there is no guarantee that it will even get here and sadly, because we are so “pre-occupied” we miss the very gift that was given to us to enjoy.

   When we acknowledge and  live in the “now moment”. Things taste better, look brighter, smell greater and feel better because it’s all happening “NOW”.  Want to have a much more exhilarating life with no extra cost or demands ? Take each moment as it comes and truly appreciate your gift of the “Present”. Who knows, perhaps our “Gift Giver” seeing that we truly enjoy our “Present” will continue to see to it that they keep coming.

Aging

July 12th, 2010

Age is such a fascinating thing. It seems to be the topic of discussion more and more in the media. The great emphasis, especially in the commercial industry, is  to “fight off” aging ( as if  one could actually “win” against the inevitable  forces of nature)

The focus is on  “youthfulness” and “turning back the clock”  or reversing the ravages of time.  Unfortunately, because we tend to be “mesmerized by the media”  so many of us “buy into” the hype that “new is good…old is bad”.   When actually nothing could be further from the truth. Nature has taught us this so well.  If you pluck a peach from the tree when it reaches full size, tell me if it taste as sweet as the one left on the tree, for days later, maybe even weeks, to soak up the sun, change color and gently fall into your hand when you lift up on it.  Talk to a cheese connoisseur and see if he or she would prefer a piece of cheese freshly made or one that has been allowed to “age”.  We’ve all heard the adage “aging like fine wine”.  In the orient, which can, and has, taught us much, aging is revered, not only in nature, but in humans…and most specifically, especially in humans.

Somehow in western thinking, where we tend to be more susceptible to “hype” we have “bought into” the concept that “aging” is a negative thing and must be avoided at any cost. And yet deep within our core we KNOW that it just isn’t so.

Ask any eighth grader, if he or she thinks he/she is smarter than a fifth grader. Ask any student in high school if he/she is smarter that someone in elementary school. On up the ladder we could go. Ask anyone if they think they are smarter now than they were last year. Truth is, “How could it not be so?”  Every day of our life as we are experiencing we are learning. The wonderful thing about this is that it’s an automatic process. So we can go forward, resisting, kicking and screaming or we can embrace each new day and knowing that we have unlimited potential enjoy it to the fullest. One of the best quotes regarding “living life to the fullest” is attributed to Mae West, who supposedly said, “I’d rather wear out…than rust out !!”   I have a great lady friend who I’m sure is well up there in years, but when  anyone asks her age, she comments, “My age is none of my business!”

As for me, early on I decided to divide my life into quarters. Thirty years per quarter. I am now in my third quarter and loving every moment of it. As I tell my students, “We are ALL growing older…children are growing older, minute by minute. It is a fact of life that we are growing older, but we don’t ever have to grow “OLD”  . Being “old” is not a fact of life, it is a  “perception of the mind”. And as the Sages throughout history have taught us…”Change your thinking…change your life”  Bottom line ?  You are indeed grower older, how wonderful life is.

Born Winner

May 24th, 2010

More and more in our society people are developing negative vocabularies and then they wonder why they aren’t successful. In the first place, based on scientific studies done in the sixties, we have learned that the sub-conscious is the “programming aspect “of our being. we know also that it is “voice sensitive”, specific to our own voice…in other words, what we say with our mouth, goes in our ears and “programs” us. Each time we say things like ” I won’t..” or “I didn’t” or ” I can’t”, we are placing limits on ourselves, when, point of fact..we are limitless! Did you ever notice how when you were younger you took so many more chances, so many more challenges you met head on, and so many more successes…without even giving it much thought. That’s because when you were young you were still “success oriented” WHY? Because you came into this world a success ! Think about it. we all had basic science 101, where we learned that when Mom and Dad got amorous and that magic moment happened suddenly the race was on with a gazillion sperm all racing to connect with one single egg and suddenly POW!…one connects and nine months later out come YOU. Now, if another sperm had connected, it would be someone else, not you…but it didn’t happen that way. you, connected, you prevailed, in short…you WON the sperm race! You entered this world a proven winner!! That spirit still prevailed when you decided to learn how to walk. Think about it.When you were about 18 months old. You didn’t have this big magnificent brain you have now, you just had a little head, with a little body but you saw people walking around above you, thought it was pretty cool, so you wanted to do it too. So you got up, tried, fell down, skinned your knee, tried again, fell, bumped your chin, tried again, fell down and cried…did you give up ? Absolutely not! you kept going until one day…”Hey Mom, Hey Dad, look at me…I’m doing it!” …and the rest as they say, is history. Point is, when you go to work or the supermarket, or church…do you ever see anyone CRAWL in on all fours? …and you say what are you doing down there? and they say ” Who Me? I tried that walking thing once, fell down…don’t like it…staying down here ! Now as silly as this may sound. This is basically what we do as adults when we “give up” after one or two attempts. Truth be told. You would amaze yourself with all the successes you would chalk up if you would just keep going with the “knowingness” that you CAN do it. Change your thinking…Change your life!

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Never Give Up

April 16th, 2010

Never Give Up!

Never Give Up !  (Actually, these words by Winston Churchill  after the war, giving his most powerful and shortest speech ever…said, ” Never, never, never, never, NEVER, give up !”)  and he truly practiced what he preached; constantly on the radio as a cheerleader and coach…empowering his people. During the war there were times when the English fighter planes were out-numbered literally ten to one…or greater…yet the pilots faught unceasingly coming down only to refuel, grab a quick cup of something and go right back up, sometimes days on end, without sleep.Daily, Churchill was spurring them on.  Hitler said of his adversaries, in so many words, I’ve never seen such tenacity in all my life. …and he was right.  I can attest to this. when I was living in England in the late sixties, I often would bring up the subject, just to get first hand feedback from those who “Been there done that!” One guy told me…”No question about it, if we were to run out of bullets, we would have thrown rocks or even our furniture if necessary. We were determined not to let them step foot on our soil”. 

In another time and place, another great leader (and General), Hannibal, never let anything stop him (as was evidenced by him doing the seemingly impossible…taking elephants over the Alps) he said, ” We will either find a way….or make a way!” Such conviction is the stuff of those who succeed.

In essence…attitude is everything!  You have to SEE the end result in your mind’s eye but… most important, you have to KNOW that you will succeed. This knowingness takes practice, and I’ll be talking more about it in later blogs. For now, just know that you cannot succeed in anything until you realize that you can and then “lock on it!” 

Helpful Hint: Eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary. It  not only weakens you but translates into negative results. ( The word “try” basically translates into “No” or ” Won’t be able to” )

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